11 days

It's been what.. Almost 11 days since I last blogged.

A lot of things are happening. Hubbee's here now, magkasama na kami uli, we had a celebration of our 3rd year anniversary (which I will write about if I have time), I had to tour him around in Bangkok and in Pattaya, I had to teach him on some things he need to learn about our place and the people, and I have a part time job now which really took a lot of time and energy from me. It was just crazy!

Naiipon na ang mga entries sa utak ko. And this is what I hate. Automatic na nag-so-store nang blog thoughts ang utak ko at di ko siya maalis. Kaya kapag nagkaroon na ako uli nang blog time, babawi ako in a major way. Sobrang daming kwento! For now kasi, if I have a spare time, I just relax and reserve my strength sa kwarto dahil patayan itong isang trabaho ko. Ubos lakas talaga siya. I swear. One heaven and hell combined experience. I will also write about it soon. Very interesting siya!

I seriously miss blogging. Writing. Putting my thoughts into words. I used to have a lot of time. Because it was just me. But now, since hubbee's here already, I spend some time with him also, aside from work and other stuff. I guess I'm back to the same routine I used to have in the Philippines. Managing my time to many things so I can balance it. So! Till my next update. Which you should not miss! Pasabog ang mga susunod na stories =)

Happy 3rd Year Anniversary Hubbee!

After Almost 3 Months

Walang katapusang exchange of BBM messages. Tinapos na lahat nang dapat i-send sa email na kakailanganin. Binilin na ang lahat. Nakapag-skype na at naituro na ang dapat ituro. Napayo na ang lahat nang dapat malaman. At tinatapos na niya yung bagahe niya. Last day na ni hubbee sa Pilipinas today. Busy na siya to prepare his things for his flight tomorrow. This is it! I will finally see hubbee after almost 3 months.

Tuloy pa din ang dasal ko. Na sana makalusot siya sa Immigration sa NAIA airport. Sana hindi siya harangin. Sana walang maging aberya. Grabe ang kaba at pag-aalala ko dahil pag naharang siya, nganga na lang ako. Wala nang hubbee, nasayang ang lahat nang effort, masasayang pa ang perang pinambili nang ticket. Lahat na nang dasal at orasyon, ginawa ko na. Sana naman, mapagbigyan ang hiling nang aking puso. Para sa aming 3rd year anniversary celebration. Please po!!!

Mag-aayos na din ako. Papunta na ako nang Bangkok later at makikitulog sa aking kaibigan doon na si Marlowe. Para bukas, deretso na ako nang airport dahil early flight si hubbee. First time ko din pumunta nang airport bilang magsusundo at hindi pasahero. So kailangan ko pumunta nang maaga at baka maligaw o malito ako. Malaki pa naman ang airport nang Bangkok. Sana matuloy ang lahat. Sana matupad ang lahat nang pinlano. Sana may susunduin akong hubbee. Sana...

Have a safe flight hubbee! I claim na makakaalis ka. I'll be back blogging in the next coming days. Iu-update ko kayo sa mga susunod na pangyayari. See you all folks! See you in the next coming days Pattaya! Hopefully, with my partner...

Driving In Pattaya

Ilang taon din ang pinagsamahan namin ni Khenzo sa Pilipinas. Kasama ko siya lagi kahit saan ako magpunta. Madalas nga, kausap ko yun. Kinukuwentuhan ko nang mga frustration ko sa office kapag nasa parking lot lang kami. Minsan sinisigawan ko kapag gusto ko lang maglabas nang sama nang loob o galit. Hindi ako iniwan nun. Especially yung mga emergency cases. Naasahan ko siya nang maraming beses kahit minsan, tinotopak din siya, pero subok na subok na ang aming ibang klaseng pagsasamahan.

Khenzo is my car in the Philippines.

As mentioned in my previous entry, before I left the Philippines, kumuha ako nang international driver's license just in case I will drive here in Pattaya. I thought it will take a long time pa nga for that to happen. I thought matatagalan uli bago ako mag-drive. I thought mami-miss ko nang sobra ang humawak nang manibela. Pero nung dumating na yung sasakyan nang cousin ko a month after I arrived here, nakapag-maneho na uli ako. We call her "mimi". That's the name of their car. 

I'm used to driving a manual car. It was my first time to drive an automatic. And yeah, it's easier. You're just like driving a bump car. Just gas and break. But what made the transition difficult for me was the position of the driver's seat. Sa Pilipinas, sa kaliwa ang driver's seat. Ang pang kambyo mo, kanang kamay. Dito sa Thailand, ang driver's seat, nasa kanan. Kaya good thing at automatic yung car kasi wala namang kakambyuhin sa pagmamaneho. It's just drive, neutral, reverse, park, and that's it.

The other day, I had to bring my good friend at the Bus Terminal dahil pauwi sila nang Pilipinas. I had to drive his car at ihahatid ko pabalik sa bahay nila. Pasuyo lang. And guess what, it's a manual car. I had initial hesitations kasi nga, right seat, so kaliwang kamay ang pang kambyo, eh di naman ako kaliwete. I had to drive test first before we left. So far, naka survive naman ako. Nakauwi naman ako nang buhay. And I'm happy to say that I'm officially good in driving here in Pattaya. I just know I am. Hehe.

Mabilis din ako kumabisado nang daan. Malakas kasi photographic memory ko. Mabilis kong matandaan yung mga nakikita ko lalo na pag naulit. Marami na akong alam na pasikot sikot and driving in Pattaya is not that so difficult. Para din kasi sa Pilipinas. Their traffic rules are just like us. If you know what I mean. Kaya kapag naiiwan si mimi sa bahay, lumalabas lang kami ni nana, drive around, pick-up Ray, pasyal pasyal lang. I'm just happy that Von Viajero is now an official Pattaya driver. I just missed the feeling of driving a car. Hehe.

The Tom-Dee Culture

It's not just gay men who are all over this city. Girl to girl couplings can be found everywhere in Pattaya too. Do you picture now why this city is called the sin city? Hehe. But it's important to know that you should not call them lesbians here, not like in the Philippines. They prefer less general monikers, more specifically 'toms' for tomboys and 'dees' for ladies.

As you know, tom is a woman who behaves like a man. They’re exactly like boys, only their bodies aren’t the same. Let me share the tom-dee culture here in my own perspective.

To be a 'tom' is to adopt the male gender role completely: wearing jeans and T-shirts, binding breasts to their chest and refusing, even in the bedroom, to disrobe and shatter the illusion of maleness. To be 'dee' is to girl-it-out to the max: lipstick, sparkly handbags and heels.

A tom is like a guy but way better to most of the dees. Toms take them shopping, carry their bags and, in the bedroom, focus exclusively on pleasuring their dee.

There are bars made exclusive for girls only. Customers or patrons are toms served by dees to give them the pleasure they want, or sometimes, just the company or attention they need. Thailand’s unflinching acceptance of same-sex couples is hugely appealing to lesbians outside the country too. If you visit BangkokLesbian.com, it has become a forum for lesbians in Bangkok who don’t play by the tom-dee rules. Of the 1,100 members, about half are Thai.

They even have an exclusive magazine for toms. I was surprised to see that in one of the convenient stores here. If you go to some of the bars and clubs in Walking Street, you would see toms working as staff, doing the job used to be exclusive for men before. I never had a certified tom friend in my life. I had dees, but not toms. I'm curious to know how it is, how's life as a tom, and how is it different (or there's none) to gay guy's life. Maybe, someday, I'll have a tom friend. And will get all the answers to my questions...