Flirt. Flirting. Flirtation.

What is flirting?

According to Wikipedia, it is a sexual activity involving verbal communication as well as body language by one person to another, suggesting an interest in a deeper relationship with the other person. Some people flirt playfully just for amusement. So for me, Flirt is the person. Flirting is the act. Flirtation is the activity. That's how I interpret it.

Flirtation happens everywhere, anywhere. Sa bar, sa coffee shop, sa mall, sa restaurant, kahit sa public CR, even sa social media or thru telecommunications. Nagkalat ang mga flirt ngayon. I guess it's part of human nature. Everyone is entitled to get attracted to someone. But the question is, when is it called too much? When do you say you have crossed the line?

Almost 3 years na kami ni hubbee. Have we flirted? Is this one of the reasons of our normal arguments? Is this a major issue to us? How did we handle it? I'd like to put my thoughts in writing because in different occasions, we have been accused separately about this matter. This is not to explain but to share how we have managed it. And I don't want to sound an expert on this. This is just my opinion.

Active ako sa BBM. Active naman si hubbee sa twitter. And for gays nowadays, part of their social life is in BBM and in twitter. So when guys find someone attractive to them, magpapapansin yan in so many creative ways. Pag merong spark of interest na, they'll try to give them a private message. At pag sinagot ang message, ayun na, that's where endless possibilities starts. Haha. Tama ba ako?

Pareho kasi kami ni hubbee na mapagpatol. It became a form of amusement for us. Parang we give back what is given to us. Pag pinakitaan kami nang bait, binabalik namin nang doble ang kabaitan. Pero pag nilandi o binastos kami, makikipaglandian at makikipagbastusan din kami. Di yata kami umaatras. Haha. Pero hanggang doon lang kami. Alam namin ang limit namin. We know when to put a comma, and we know when to put a period.

Ang problema lang dito, yung mga sinisimulan kami, minsan, di makapagpigil. Di makapag-control. They will pursue. Kahit alam naman nilang may karelasyon kami. Pero goodluck na lang di ba. They really hold on to the things we say that we really don't mean. Haha! Some accused us na nangangaliwa. O nagloloko. Pero ang totoo, wala talaga sa amin yun. Sometimes pa nga, we talk about these things sa mga bonding sessions namin. We're really open to it.

Having this relationship that lasted for 33 months is not a joke. It was made of hard work and commitment na hindi namin kayang i-give up nang dahil lamang sa tawag nang laman. Ano ito, PBB Teens? Haha. Kaya payo ko sa mga bago pa lang ang relationship, do not attempt to flirt nor entertain flirtation from others kasi di pa matibay ang foundation nang relationship niyo. Baka masira agad. Kaya maraming naghihiwalay ngayon.

Sa amin kasi, instead of lying, instead of cheating, instead of hiding or depriving yourself to be who you are at times, we let each other to have freedom of expression. We allow ourselves to be who we are. We're humans. And truth to that matter is, we're both men. By nature, it is given. Mas maraming lalakeng nagiging successful sa pagloloko kapag naglilihim. Kaya binaliktad namin. We're matured enough to accept and understand it. Ang importante lang talaga, we know our limits.

Kung walang love sa relationship namin, bumigay na ito noon pa. Kung walang trust, dati na kaming naghiwalay siguro. Kung walang open communication, madalas na siguro kaming di nagkakaintindihan at nag-aaway. So don't take our tweets too seriously. Or even our broadcasted messages. Mahilig lang kami magtease, pero wala kaming balak sirain ang relasyon naming parehas naming itinaguyod.

Only those who really knows us can deal with crazy things that we do. People may call us whatever they want to, but they can never ruin nor have this kind of relationship. Di lahat, successful sa ganitong set-up. At di lahat, tumitibay. Yung iba, bumibigay. Yung iba, nahuhulog sa patibong na they allow their partners to have sex with some guys na. That, we will make sure won't happen to us.