Lasting Relationship

Ang isang relasyon, in order for it to last, it must begin with the premise that this is built to last NOT TEMPORARY. A commitment therefore has to be made by the two of you. Isang commitment to be your partner's strength when he is weak and vice versa, and most importantly, to accept the fact that no matter how close you become, you two are still two different individuals.

But how is it to make a lasting relationship?

Hindi ako experto sa pag-ibig. That I will never claim. But what I do share are things na natutunan ko from my past relationships and on the current one. A few points to make your relationship last. First, it is not a matter of compatibility rooted on similar traits, yung mga parehong gusto niyo o ayaw niyo, it's not about that but rather about complementarity. You MUST highlight the things you like and appreciate about your partner. Importanteng naririnig nang bawat isa ang mga magagandang bagay na gusto niyo sa isa't isa.

Secondly, Love is not enough. Hindi lang yan about kiss and sex. Hindi lang yan puro PBB Teens "hug mo ako, hug mo ako". Hindi ganun. A relationship must be renewed everyday and must be built upon something stronger than shared attraction or passion. Work in progress siya. Everyday poses a new challenge. But it's about how far can you go, not how far are you willing to go. A will that is stronger than willingness. Gets?

Third, imbes na hanapin mo yung "Perfect Partner" in him, be one! Don't always find fault in your partner, but instead, be the first to admit your own faults. There is no space for pride in a relationship. And funny thing is, yan ang greatest enemy namin pareho. Ako kasi, ma-pride. Eh mas ma-pride si hubbee. Hehe. But imagine kung pinaiiral namin ang pride namin lagi, hindi kami tatagal. We learned how to set aside pride when things are rough. Salitan kami sa pagpapakumbaba para naaayos agad ang di pagkakaintindihan. But I must admit, mas madalas si hubbee ang nagpapakumbaba sa amin. Gusto ko kasi lagi yung sinusuyo. Hehe.

Fourth, you should know na hindi lang kayong dalawa ang tao sa mundo. You will have to learn to see your place in your partner's world and see him in yours. And much much more. Wag niyong paliliitin ang mundo niyo. Get to know the family, relatives, and friends of each other. Dahil pag nagkahiwalay kayo, you will then realize how small your world is kapag ginawa niyong exclusive to each of you ang relasyon niyo.

These are just some pointers that I can share that so far helped us make our relationship work. Marami pa actually. But in summary, we just really need to realize na ang isang relasyon ay isang complicated matter, which is not for the weak of hearts. In its core is the question: "Is having a relationship really what you want?". If yes, go ahead, there are people like you. If no, go ahead and have the world as your oyster. But never mislead anyone to believe that you are looking for one. Because you are hindering their chance to find their own happiness. Everyone is entitled for one, right?

So for those who are in a relationship, I know it's not that easy. Being in a relationship is a commitment, a responsibility. And for you to make it a lasting relationship, you need to work hard in making it one. May kasama din yang pagtitiis at pain in the process. Hindi lang yan test o quiz na sinasagutan, na kapag nakapasa ka, okay na. Hindi ganun yun. But let's admit it, kahit di madali magmaintain nang relationship, wala pa rin tatalo sa masarap na feeling na may mahal ka at may nagmamahal sa'yo. The best feeling in the world! Madami kasi nun ang wala. Kaya keep that relationship to you and your partner ONLY!